Makes You Wanna Holler: The Physical Impact of Grief

When I first started this writing journey, over 10 years ago, I tried to find a message in life’s little moments. Each post was about my daily experiences and how I could identify God’s hand in the middle of it all. 

I have wondered what this chapter of  my life would look like as I navigated uncharted waters, held up by the same hand that has been covering and protecting me since I entered this world. As I launched the new podcast, Grieving Well, I had to acknowledge that I still have something to say. So here I am again, pivoting. 

Or maybe I am just doing what I have been called to do– simply sharing my story.

This is a story of pain, resilience, and the unwavering presence of God’s mighty hand.

Here, I have found purpose smack dab in the middle of my pain.

Grief is a journey that few anticipate and none escape unscathed. In the wake of my own loss, I found solace in the arms of God – a strength that carried me through the darkest of days. Today, I want to shed light on the impact of grief, particularly its physical toll on our bodies.

I vividly recall a moment in my car, chest tight with sorrow, questioning aloud, “What am I supposed to do with this grief?” It was a week after the funeral, and the weight of my loss felt palpable, manifesting as physical pain. In that moment, I realized the profound toll grief can take on our bodies.

As I confided in my friend Debra, tears streaming down my face, she offered a simple yet profound truth: “You are experiencing real heartache.” And so, I screamed. Alone in my car, I let out the pent-up anguish, releasing the burden that had weighed heavily on my heart.

But the physical pain persisted, a relentless reminder of the grief that had taken root within me. Months later, a visit to the doctor’s office confirmed what I had suspected – prolonged bereavement disorder. It was a term unfamiliar to me, but one that encapsulated the lingering ache of loss that gripped my soul.

The journey of grief is a tumultuous one, marked by moments of profound despair and unexpected reminders of our loss. It’s a journey that defies easy explanation, leaving us grappling with emotions too complex to articulate. But amidst the pain, there is hope – hope found in the love and support of others, the guidance of medical professionals, and the unwavering presence of a loving God.

So, what do we do with our grief? How do we navigate the uncharted territory of loss? First and foremost, we must lean on others for support. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a compassionate therapist, or a grief support group, sharing our pain with others can help lighten the burden and ease the isolation of grief.

Secondly, we must prioritize our physical health. Grief can take a toll on our bodies, manifesting as sleep disturbances, appetite changes, and even physical pain. Seeking medical attention and following the guidance of healthcare professionals can help mitigate these symptoms and promote overall well-being.

Finally, we must fortify our spiritual foundation. For me, faith has been an anchor in the storm, providing comfort and solace in moments of despair. Connecting with a community of believers and nurturing our relationship with God can provide the strength and resilience needed to weather the storms of grief.

In closing, I want to remind you that you are not alone. As you navigate the turbulent waters of grief, know that there are others who have walked this path before you – others who understand the depths of your sorrow and the weight of your pain. May you find solace in the knowledge that you are loved, you are supported, and you are not alone.

Listen to Grieving Well – Episode 1: The Story I’ll Tell-Navigating Grief with Purpose and Faith